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I like odd numbers so let’s go 2021!

Is anyone feeling optimistic about the year in front of us? There have been so many changes this year, a new president, a pandemic, an economic shake up and loss of health, lives and devastation.

For me personally it’s been an uphill battle complete with health issues, family issues and stress. As a Capricorn, the sign of the goat, I’m no stranger to uphill battles, in fact I feel like I’ve been climbing these mountains my whole life. Being born under the sign of Capricorn is more of a curse than a blessing, many people, including myself, know this personally to be true.

So why am I so optimistic about the year to come? I’d rather look ahead than look back. I’m choosing to see the glass half full rather than half empty. While this pandemic is not going to suddenly end with the changing of the calendar, it’s important to remember this quote which is one of my favorites….

This too shall pass….

And on that note

Here are some of my goals for 2021

Be more present in the moment and enjoy the little things. I think I’ve kind of just been living in a…let’s get through this, let’s get things done, mentally. I think slowing down a bit has allowed me the time to think, to breathe, to reflect. I’ve been so busy worrying about making everyone else happy that I forgot one important factor, making myself happy. I plan on focusing more on doing things that make me happy too.

I want to blog more, take on freelance writing again and film more videos about things on my heart, topics relating to parenting, health and living a healthy life and start recording more podcast episodes.

I definitely want to make health a top priority this year. I’ve been dealing with health challenges and I’m living with a Chronic pain condition that millions are also living with (see my column on Fibromyalgianewstoday.com under Chronically Candid Mom for more on this).

I want to do more fun things. I can honestly say that although this year has been a challenge, I did more fun things than the year before. I traveled more and tried skating again, something I loved as a child and focused on having fun with my boys dancing, singing and playing games like Uno, Connect Four and video games of course.

I want to read more, real books. Yes, they do still exist and so do libraries, go figure.😳 Did you know that two of the wealthiest people in the world make it an absolute priority to read every day? Apple tycoon Bill Gates reads at least 50 books a year. Warren Buffett, the most well known Billionaire investor out there, started his investing career reading 300-1000 pages a day. Here’s a link to books Warren Buffet recommends everyone read

https://financialpost.com/business-insider/warren-buffett-book-picks

Virtual hugs and blessings for 2021!

What are some of your goals for 2021?

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Dear Coronavirus….I thank you.

As we turn our calendars to the next year, and breathe a sigh of relief I might add. I can’t help but look back at 2020 with gratitude.

Cheers! To all the lessons learned, memories shared and books read, and to the pj’s we’ve been lounging in since March! Cheers, to the forced down-time and forced time to think, learn and grow.

While our old friend rona may not go home anytime soon, and the loss from this devastating time is incomprehensible and insurmountable but it won’t go on forever. Through it all, I can’t help but think about all the things we’ve gained from this time that won’t soon be forgotten.

Cheers to the things I’ve learned

I’ve learned that sometimes we need a alap in the face to put things into perspective. Two things are irreplaceable time and family.

I learned that I love to read as much as I love to learn.

I learned the power of kindness through chaos

What my kids learned….

My now ten year old son with Autism learned the value in reading and can now read a paragraph or two without help, which is huge! It took him getting stuck while playing Fortnite to realize this value, but hey…we digress

My youngest son who’s seven realized he loves dancing and singing.

Things we did this year…. well, we still lived.

I spent so much time with my kids that I will never get back. This time has been precious. They’re only little for so long.

We went to the coast twice. Bandon, OR and Eureka, CA and we went to Southern CA. Yes, we wore masks and took all safety precautions and obeyed orders.

I became a kid again! I rediscovered something I lived for as a kid…. roller skating. We went skating a lot. Thank you tiktok for opening everyone’s eyes to a trend we all thought was long gone.

And about tiktok, I’m embarrassed to say I discovered this app. And by discovered, I mean loathed….at first. Until I realized how much my youngest son loves dancing, we had so much fun on this app learning new dances.

All in all, it was a pretty good year putting aside how weird it was. I’m choosing to see the glass half full and embrace all I’ve gained, not lost.

What are some lessons you learned this year? What are some of the good times and positive things you’ve seen come from this year?

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I got a nose job: Do I regret it?

rOk, so this was once upon a time, long story short….I had a nose job. Truth be told I hadn’t always hated my nose. I think the first time I realized my nose was less than normal or ‘cute’ was when a school classmate asked me if I had broken my nose. It was only then that I examined my nose a little more carefully. I think I was in the seventh grade. Junior high is one of those pivotal times in your life as a young teenager. A time when you start to notice boys, girls become obsessed with hair and makeup trends, school dances and who was the most popular become the most important aspects of life.

I think my feeling of inadequacy started here, in Jr. high.

After my insensitive classmate pretty much said “what’s up with your schnoz” I closely examined my nose more carefully and to my utter shock and confusion I realized I did have a less than desirable side profile which my nose was a little longer than I would have liked and had a bridge hump towards the top. I started to wonder if I had in fact broken my nose. It did kind look that way.

Fast forward to my mid twenties and I just could not shake this feeling of nasal inadequacy. I wanted a ‘cute’ nose, a ‘button’ nose, the kind of nose you see in magazines like Glamour and Elle.

I decided to get a free cosmetic procedure consultation. I was asked by my future surgeon the same question, “did you ever break your nose?” Wow, is everyone this insensitive? Ok, I guess a cosmetic surgeon could say that, I mean after all he had my best interest at heart right? I came to him with a problem and he was trying to solve it.

Looking back I did actually recall an incident where I was running at school in 3rd grade and I ran smack dab into the side of a portable classroom, cutting the corner too close as I was running to a sewing class. I remember this hurting a whole hell of a lot and my nose did bleed quite a bit. I thought after I viewed my profile…”hmm, did I in fact break my nose?” Nonetheless, it was time to fix the damage that had been done so many years before this appointment. After my surgeon told me I had a deviated septum and that it’s highly probable that my medical insurance would cover some of the procedure, I decided to fork over nearly $5000, reluctantly, and scheduled the surgery. My surgeon said the procedure would take a couple hours and be an outpatient event. Easy peasy right?

Having grown up in poverty and spending so much time and energy trying to get out of poverty, $5000 at the time might as well have been $100,000 to me. But I figured the confidence boost it would give me could propel me into a far better tax bracket than my lowly wage as an administrative assistant at a local furniture store. And it would make for great wedding pics as my then husband snd I were renewing our vows with a real ceremony this time. The first wedding was in the living room of our very first apartment together.

After waiting a couple weeks impatiently, the day finally came! Surgery day! I went through the procedure and was told when I awoke that the surgery had in fact taken a lot longer, actually more like 6 hours. I guess I bleed pretty bad and the surgery didn’t go quite as planned. I looked like I had just been in the rig with Mike Tyson. That’s actually an understatement, it was all bad! I had two black eyes. Two tampon looking bandages in my nostrils and bandages on my face. I looked like a hot mess, although I was too sore and tired to care. My then husband (now ex-husband) drove me home and really the rest of the day was a blur. Assuming I just went home and slept. Day three post-op was the worst day of recovery, my whole face was swollen and my eyes where nearly swollen shut.

I think I got my bandages off about 7-10 days post-op. When I finally got to see the results of the surgery I was soooo happy. See my Avatar pic on this blog for a good view of what my nose looked like post op.

Here I am now, it’s been about 14 years since my surgery and I can safely say that although I don’t regret the surgery, I do wish I had been more informed. My nose has changed shape. It’s now more boney looking and the bridge has a sharp, non-rounded edge. I have reoccurring sinus infections which can be pretty brutal. I’ve had stinging in my nose. I’ve had gross smelling nasal discharge (I know TMI) before a few times, I’ve had sinus headaches and now I was told I may have to have a other surgery to correct the first surgery and that I still have a deviated septum. Although, I was told that a future surgery may be necessary with a Rhinoplasty, I guess I kinda just shrugged the risk off as being a rare possibility and I was hopeful that my surgery would go perfectly and be the exception.Why am I posting this on a frugal living blog? I think it’s important to share personal things that I’ve gone through, I want to be as open and transparent about my life struggles. I have not had an easy life by any stretch of the imagination. These are just some huge hurtles I’ve had to overcome in my life. I have endured child abuse, neglect, poverty, infertility, domestic abuse, having a special needs child, financial struggles, medical struggles, a five year divorce and a bankruptcy. I feel like I can relate to just about anyone at this in my life, I literally have gone through everything humanly possible, and yet I’m still standing, I’m still here and I live to fight another day! I hope this post helps and inspires someone who might be struggling with something difficult. Be brave and stay strong…. this too shall pass.